Our Top 10 Wedding Etiquette Don'ts ... For the Bride & Groom!

 Photo by Neal Dieker

Photo by Neal Dieker

Hello mid westerner's! Your wedding day is a huge highlight in your life, and it's supposed to be about you and your groom... right? While this is very true, we feel there are still a few etiquette rules you may need a refresher on. Today we're sharing our top ten Etiquette DON’TS for the bride and groom throughout the wedding process.

Here's what not to do. Let's get started! (You're welcome in advance.)

 

1.       Blatantly ask for cash or gift cards on the invitations.

Really, there shouldn't be any mention of money or presents on the invitation. Period. 

 

2.      Saving little to NO time to greet your guests. 

We understand the need for the dance floor, but a quick round of hello's will make you and your guests feel better about the evening. 

 Photo by Steven Michael Photo

Photo by Steven Michael Photo

 

3.       Forgetting or neglecting to send out thank you cards. 


You have 3 months tops to send out thank you cards until it's toooo long of a wait.

 

4.       Leaving little to no space for guests to get around at your reception. 

Your guests won't enjoy having to do a crab walk or side-ways limbo trying to make it back to their seats with cake.

 Photo By Jessica Noelle Photography

Photo By Jessica Noelle Photography

Photo By Jessica Noelle Photography 

5.       Being aggressive towards your guests or family members - publicly.

We’ve heard it all from, "YOU stepped on my dress!!!" to “Where are my f*$&@ing sparklers!?” Your hot temper is awkward for everyone. 

 

6.       Starting your ceremony late. 

There’s a fine line here. Bride and groom’s have been starting their weddings later due to non-punctual guests - which isn’t the fault of the B&G. Nobody else should have to suffer, start on time.

 Photo by Steven Michael Photo

Photo by Steven Michael Photo

Photo by Steven Michael Photo 

7.       Choosing a difficult date or time for your wedding.

Friday weddings need to be after work hours, Sunday weddings need to end earlier - things like that! 

 

8.       Sending an invitation to someone who already said they couldn’t attend.

This gives the impression that you want something in return *cough* wedding gift *cough*

 Photo by Steven Michael Photo

Photo by Steven Michael Photo

Photo by Steven Michael Photo

9.       Not feeding your vendors.

Including the band or DJ you forgot about! You should always encourage them to go grab a seat and eat – even if it already states that in their contract.

 

10.   Scratching the Bridal Party Gifts.

Your friends spend $500-$600 on average to be in your wedding, so make sure they feel the love. You don’t need to go to an extreme but something thoughtful for all the time they invest is ideal.

 Photo by Jessica Noelle Photography 

Photo by Jessica Noelle Photography 

Now go have fun, be relaxed and remember to always be polite! 

"Politeness is an inexpensive way of making friends"

 

Meet the Photographers

Neal Dieker
Jessica Noelle Photography
Steven Michael Photo


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